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I’m Making The Rules NOW

A follow up on my Until further notice… NO MORE SCHOOL blog post that I did in another blog…. “In the world of homeschool we are still doing nothing. Haden seems much happier, which for now is what I need. I have managed to try and “sneak” things in as I see the opportunity but I feel like I really suck at this not having a plan thing. I am trying to put what he needs above what I need on this though. It is tough. It sucks. My hope is that with more time I will adjust and all will be good.” I wanted to add more to that, so I will start from there. In an attempt to try and embrace unschooling I decided to read another unschooling book to hopefully help pump me up about it and renew some enthusiasm. I have read a couple in the past. The Unprocessed Child: Living Without School and   The Unschooling Handbook : How to Use the Whole World As Your Child’s Classroom. Both very good books but at the time I just could never see myself being an unschooler even though I liked much of the philosophy. I don’t think I ever really let myself take it all in.  Actually, let me back track. Lets go back to the very beginning. Haden must have been about a month old when I first thought about homeschooling. I more mentioned it to Michael in a joking way because I was so enamored with motherhood that I didn’t like the thought of Haden ever being away from me for extended amounts of time. Just mentioning it though was all it took to spark my interest. So began my researching and the realization that there were MANY good reasons to homeschool. So it was decided. From that point on I was a hardcore supporter of homeschooling and very much against the idea of ever sending Haden or any future children into “the system”. So here is where I will mention my first mistake. I think the very first one I made was getting too excited about my future as a homeschooling mother. Thinking about what curriculum I would use when he was old enough to school, having pretty much “decided” how I wanted to homeschool long before it was relevant. I had it all planned out before Haden was one. Of course as soon as I could justify doing so, I started doing preschool with Haden. Trying to inspire learning... read more

Until further notice… NO MORE SCHOOL

Here I sit finding myself in a place in life where everything feels like it is off. Personal things and too much stress have been making my household not tons of fun, and I think all of this is having a negative impact on Haden’s behavior. The past couple of weeks have been pretty painful when it comes to school. Trying to do any sort of pre-thought out activity has been met with resistance. Homeschooling, something that was supposed to be fun for us, has turned decidedly not. When Haden was a baby I had all these wonderful visions of us learning just by living, and doing things that inspired learning through fun. Somewhere along the way I started to think too much about what he is learning. Is he learning enough? Does he know the things he needs to know? Apparently, my personality doesn’t allow for too much non-structure. Really, I could have a whole other blog post about how uptight and compulsive I am… I thought for sure that we would be unschoolers, and then started to get worried that he wouldn’t possibly know the things he needed to know if I were an unschooler. I did even more reading on the philosophy, and found it really hard for me to feel like I could ever be a true unschooler. Listening to radical unschoolers talk about unschooling, and what you should or mostly should not be doing, did not sit well with me. Ok… I am sort of rambling. Mostly cause I had SO many thoughts jumping around inside my head, and really I just needed to put them all out there somewhere, even if I don’t totally make sense to anyone else. So, I was looking at stuff from my Passion for Birth Seminar the other night, and I have these inspiration cards to aid me in teaching in a different way; a way that people will learn more and feel inspired. Telling is not teaching. Build confidence. Have fun. Be bold. It’s not what people know, it’s what people do. And possibly the most important one, (I think) – It’s not all about you! If these things work best with adults, how should I really expect a child to respond well to being talked at all the time? To being told WHAT to do??? We had a deal breaker type of day on Monday. One of those really ugly days. That night I cried so... read more

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